Don’t Tell The Bride

Last year I spent half of the year working on arguably the biggest and best known bridal TV show out there. Yes, none other than Don’t Tell The Bride.

Working on the show was great fun and I literally spent six months living and breathing all things weddings. In a way I have Don’t Tell The Bride to thank for inspiring me to create my blog, as I had so much wedding  information stored up, I thought what better outlet than to share my knowledge with others.

The way that TV works though, sometimes means that shows I work on take a chunk of time to be edited down and they are then at the mercy of the TV Channel (which has moved from Sky1 to E4 for this series) who decide when the show will air. So I was happy to find out this week that some of the episodes I worked on last year start going out from today!

So tonight check out Don’t Tell The Bride on E4, you never know it might give you some wedding inspiration, although it will probably give you good advice on what NOT to do on your wedding day haha.

Only kidding, you never know, you might pick up some dream venue tips along the way.

Let me know what you think!

Vix X

Venue Rules

Choosing a wedding venue is not easy. Personally, unless you have a dream venue in mind, I think it’s actually one of the hardest decisions to make.

One thing I learnt while working on various wedding shows was that, in order to get married at a venue, it has to have a wedding license. Sounds basic, but this does mean that you can’t just pick a building and get married there.

Equally, it means you can’t just choose a beach and get married there either, unless you live in Scotland, who have different rules to the rest of the UK.

So before you set your sights on marrying in a hill top castle, do check that they have a wedding license because if not, you will be disappointed.

So what do you do? Well the easiest way is to check out the governments approved premises list for civil marriages and civil partnerships in England and Wales. Similarly you can Google ‘licensed wedding venues in area X’ which will come up with a government website which will highlight all of the licensed premises in the area.

Best of all, it means you can choose your wedding venue, knowing you can actually get married there.

Churches are an entirely different ball game and come with their own criteria depending which parish you live in. Make sure you do your research before you set your sights on a particular church and if in doubt go and see your local vicar who will clarify the rules.

Happy Venue Hunting! 🙌

Vix X

Bartering Under Budget

When it comes to bartering us British are, well, British. Very British. As soon as money discussions start we feel awkward and agree to pay anything just to get the conversation out of the way. Okay I’m exaggerating but you get my point.

I don’t think it tends to be as common as it should be and it’s most Brits worst nightmare. Yes I’m referring to the art of Bartering.

Yup, I went there, I said the B word. Bartering is SO important to sticking to your budget and most of the time suppliers will be willing to do a deal.

While working on wedding TV shows I would regularly ask suppliers if they could give me their absolute best price. Sometimes it worked, other times not so much. But ultimately if you don’t ask you don’t get.

Never be afraid to discuss money and always explain your circumstances. If you genuinely only have a certain budget in mind, most of the time suppliers will help you even if it means changing your request slightly to make it happen. If they can’t help, the chances are that they will be able to recommend somebody who can.

Get your practice in and if you want to save money in the lead up to your big day,  start bartering. Your bank balance will thank me later 😂🙌

Vix X

Stag VS Hen

Photo credit: Warner Bros. 

So last night I went to see Jack Whitehall at The Hammersmith Apollo. What’s this got to do with weddings?! Well, it turns out as part of his set, Jack brought up the difference between hen  and stag do’s, so I thought I would write a little something on the topic as it got me thinking.

I think the moment your other half (for us ladies at least, correct me if I’m wrong) casually mentions he’s been invited to a stag do, it’s hard not to be eaten by internal dread. 😂 Not the kind dread where you don’t trust them, but more a ‘oh god a load of drunk blokes hitting up Benidorm, what could go wrong’ scenario. I’m not going to lie, we’ve all seen The Hangover. Say no more. 🙈🙈

Is it just me, or is it more of a girl thing to worry about this? Do guys worry in the same way when their girlfriends go on hen do’s?

Personally, I don’t think they do worry on the same level as I feel like stag do’s seem that bit wilder. I’m thinking lads on tour style, ‘what happens in Prague stays in Prague’ type mentality, if you catch my drift.

I’m just not convinced a ladies weekend spa day in Bath provides much worry?!  Now,  I might be completely wrong, I’d love to know others thoughts on this.

Let me know,

Vix X

Pre- Wedding ‘Me Time’

So you’ve planned your wedding, you have the dress nailed, the bridesmaids have chosen their shoes and the reception is planned to the absolute max.

But million dollar question, how much time should you take off work before your wedding?

Yes it’s a question which is like how long is a piece of string, it really is down to the individual. That said, if you have a job which will allow you to take the week before your wedding off, I would definitely recommend it.

Why? well mainly because getting married is a huge life event and one you hopefully only do once. Would you want to look back and think about how stressed you were juggling work with any last minute planning, worrying about how your family who live abroad are going to travel and ultimately just ending up a bit frazzled? nope, thought not.

In my opinion, the week before your wedding should be as serene as possible (famous last words). Take the time off because you will be so much more relaxed having time to think about last minute bits and pieces that might have slipped your mind. You might want a spray tan, or even a massage to get you into the mood and looking and feeling fab ahead of your big day.

Lets not forget what stress can do to your body. As soon as we get stressed to the max your skin breaks out in spots, you get tired and before you know it you’re feeling pretty run down. Not what you want when you walk down the aisle.

Remember to factor in that the night before you wedding, you might not get that much sleep just due to excitement and any last minute nerves. That’s totally normal, but just give yourself the maximum amount of energy you can by relaxing at least for the week before your nuptials.

My recommendation would be to take time out to enjoy the moment and relish in everything going on around you, its a fun time, don’t let it pass you by.

Vix X

Hen Do Politics

When it comes to deciding on your guest list for your hen do, there are a few considerations to bear in  mind.

If you think your friends are fairly wild and your family are a bit more conservative, it’s worth thinking about whether you want family to attend this particular hen do, as you could always arrange two separate ones. For example, a tame spa day for parents and grandma Joan to attend, but wild nights involving strippers, perhaps best left to your friends.

If your family are quite liberal there’s no reason you can’t invite friends and family along, as long as nobody will be offended, it’s all good.

A friend of mine recently mentioned that she had been invited to a hen do before now but not invited to the wedding. I find this quite an odd scenario because I can’t imagine inviting anybody to my hen do that I wouldn’t be happy to invite to my wedding. Is it just me, or is this a bit of an odd thing to do?

When it comes down to it, only those you want to attend your hen do should be there. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to feel pressured into inviting people you don’t really want to be there. I guarantee in future you will look back and wonder why on earth you invited those that you really didn’t want to be surrounded by.

I don’t know about you, but I think it’s an age thing. The older I get, the more I seem to care less about friend/acquaintance politics and focus far more on the true friendships I have with friends who genuinely care.  If you find yourself constantly giving with nothing coming back in return, it’s time to re-evaluate friendships.

It’s true to say that sometimes it’s possible to outgrow friendships, that doesn’t mean having a huge fall out with that person but just focusing your energy on positivity instead.

Vix X

Wedding Pick-me-ups

Photo Credit: Sanoobar Unscripted

Okay, so it’s no secret that wedding planning is stressful and might leave you feeling like a good chick flick is just what you need to feel normal again.

But THE  most crucial question, what films do you go for?

I’ve put together my top 5 chick flicks (wedding related, ish of course) to help you unwind.

  1. Bridesmaids- I mean, this film is just sheer brilliance. The competition between Annie as Maid of Honour and the new found best friend is just hilarious. Melissa Mccarthy is so funny and collectively this film recreates all the nightmares a best friend could encounter when attending her best friends wedding. If you haven’t already seen it (where have you been?) you NEED to see this.
  2. Just Friends– Yes it’s a typical chick flick. But it’s funny, and Ryan Reynolds, I mean do I really need to say anymore?. It’s less of a wedding film and more of a rom-com with Ryan Reynolds coming face to face with his old high school crush with hilarious results.
  3. The Proposal. Okay there’s a theme emerging here, Ryan Reynolds again, what a shame?! ha. But no really this film is just great for some laid back laughs  and Sandra Bullock is always a great watch. This film sees Ryan’s character bullied into marrying his boss (Sandra Bullock) in order to keep her in the country, except, they get a little closer than they were first expecting. I won’t say anymore, go check it out!
  4. American Pie The Wedding. It was a fave film of mine as a teenager and as ridiculous as it is at times, I can’t help but feel nostalgic about this film.  It’s a great bit of escapism if you just want to laugh and de-stress at some silly craziness.
  5. Meet The Parents is a comedy featuring Ben Stiller as Greg Focker as he meets his girlfriends parents for the first time with disastrous results. With Robert De Niro playing the over-protective dad, it’s a fun filled watch.

What are your top 5 rom coms?

Vix X

Fake It ’til you make it

Today i’m talking about tanning. Whether you are a guest, bridesmaid or even bride, having a healthy glow has never been more fashionable.

So what’s the best way to go about getting a nice natural tan? when we don’t have a sunny beach to lie on?

Well, sadly back home in Blighty were not exactly soaking up the rays on a regular basis (although we haven’t done too badly lately). So the most popular tanning methods are applying false tan DIY style, visiting your local salon or attending your local sun bed shop. The latter, I don’t advocate as it’s pretty terrible for you and apart from all the other risks involved, nobody wants to end up really wrinkly in old age from sun bed damage.

My biggest tip would be to fake it till you make it, but in my own experience, it’s best not to go cheap as you do tend to get what you pay for when it comes to home tanning products.

My favourite is St Tropez Tanning Mousse as it’s easy to apply using a mitt and it genuinely doesn’t leave streaks. Usually about two days before a wedding I will put some tanning mousse on, I tend to do it two days before just because I find the glow a bit much on day one and i’d rather not look ‘obviously tanned’. A natural hue is what I tend to go for.

If you have a slightly bigger budget, it’s always nice to go for a spray tan. That way you avoid the potential of having a self tanning disaster and having bright orange hands (nobody has time for that). Plus I’ve always enjoyed the fact that it’s done for you, so time wise you have a bit more time for last minute wedding preparations. If you’re anything like me, I always discover things i’ve forgotten last minute and end up frantically running around trying to gather what i’ve missed ha.

What’s your favourite tanning method?

Vix X

My Top 5 Bridesmaid Shoes

It’s wedding season, it’s summer, there’s a lot going on. I’ve put together my list of top five wedding shoes so you don’t have to. Wether you love heels or flats, I’ve put a list together that combines both styles.

enjoy!

My Top Five

1. Asos Nude heeled shoes £30. I just love these beautiful shoes and I can imagine they would look great with a mid length bridesmaid dress. Best of all, nude is such a great neutral colour that works well with many dress colours and it’s a shoe you could wear again. I love the cute ankle wrap!

2. Asos Flowerpot Embellished flat sandals £28.00. I love the design of these flat sandals as they’re still pretty and formal enough for a wedding, even if you’re like me and have given up on wearing heels. They still feel girly and I think that’s the one thing you lose when you stop wearing heels, it’s a big yes from me! They would look great with a maxi style bridesmaid dress.

3. Kurt Geiger Carvela Lara shoes in pink. Currently in the Kurt Geiger sale at a price of £69 down from £99.  If you’re looking for a shoe that’s a bit more glam and glitz, this is your shoe. I love the glitter look this season and this shoe would look fab with a great variety of bridesmaid dresses or even skirts depending what you’re going for. Even better, you could definitely wear this shoe for other occasions as the peep toe design is a timeless classic.

4. Faith at Debenhams light pink high block ankle strap sandals £55

These block sandals are lovely and even better, because they’re a bit chunkier, it tends to make them a bit easier to walk in, in my experience, great for dancing the night away at the wedding reception. The only draw back with these is that they are a bit patterned and so they might not go with as many outfits as some of my previous choices.

5. Accessorize rose gold Verona Plaited sandals £25

It’s been no secret in recent months that rose gold is about as fashionable as it can get right now and these flats are no exception. The rose gold colour makes them more of a statement shoe, but at the same time they will still go with many different coloured outfits. The wrap around ankle makes them a bit more glamorous and creates more of a formal look about them.

Let me know your thoughts, what bridesmaid shoes are your favourite?

Vix X

Send, or potentially offend?

It recently dawned on me while talking to a friend, just how many people we invite to our weddings because they invited us to theirs. While I understand the politics involved and nobody wanting to offend friends or family, it did make me think, why do we do this?

In an age when wedding costs are increasing to astronomical proportions, it seems a bit bizarre that we would invite people to our wedding just because we attended theirs even if they’re not necessarily in our lives anymore and aren’t even close to them.

It is easier said than done but what do you think? Invite everybody who invited you previously or be ruthless and think of the costs involved?

While you might send a Christmas card to an old acquaintance, would you really miss them on your big day?!

Answers on a postcard 😉 😆📮

Vix X